I'm sure you've heard this a billion times in your life, especially if your not such a good significant other, but here goes: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!
Why did I 'all-cap' that, you ask? Because it's so true.
Today, my Honey (names witheld for obvious reasons) said to me, "You know I love you right?" And I hesitantly replied, "Yea, I know." Then she asked me what was the reason for my hesitation and I said, "Because it would be nice to hear it more often."
After I said that, and after she huffed at my comment, I started thinking...She really doesn't say it much, but I do know that she does. That speaks a lot of the love that she is giving me because, despite not hearing those words often, her actions keep me free from doubt. (I guess I should give you a little background on this Honey of mine. She's not my girlfriend, but, she's my bestfriend, and I'm in love with her. Crazy right?! It's nice because, I'm free to date others but so is she, which will lead to many interesting blogs).
Many ladies would probably argue with me on this, and say that they need to hear "I love you" almost every 30 mintues, or something. But those are ladies that I like to call "clingy" and sometimes "toxic". If this is your girlfriend, the only thing I can tell you to do is either 1. Dump her--if you don't care much or 2. Make sure you say it as often as possible--if you actually do love her. The only thing that pleases the clingy one is being close to you. It doesn't always have to be physically, but she just wants to know that she's atleast on your mind, when you are apart. That way, she can feel like she's there with you in your heart, and yada yada blah blah.
Hopefully, that's not your girlfriend though, and for that she should be awarded with atleast the satisfaction of knowing you love her, if you're not going to say it much. If you're the guy that's too "hard" to say I love you, especially if your girlfriend doesn't complain about it, then sending a text out of the blue, telling her how much you care, can go a long way.
Once again, I repeat: actions speak louder than words. So, if you still have to keep it low-key, a sweet phone call is nice. But, a huge hug that sweeps her off her feet (if possible) and makes her heart flutter when you hold and kiss her, is even better.
Either way, only say it if you mean it! Mishandling "I love you's" is always bound to leave you with a crazy ex...trust me!
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