Away With You!!

My Mama has always told me to never “shack up” with anyone, because they will become your worst enemy as soon as you move in together. She also said, “Listen to me. I’m always right.” And I can’t believe how right she always is...

“Where’d that come from?" you’re probably wondering. Well, another night with Alicia made me think about this (look at the post below if you don’t know who Alicia is). Alex and I picked her up from work to go back to her house and chill for a minute. As soon as she got in the car, “Boo this…and Boo that..and Boo got mad so I think he moved out…”

Everything started to make sense. She’s so crazy because they live together. In my opinion, that’s the ultimate no-no. I can say that because I’ve done it. And listen, very closely…are you paying attention? Don’t move in with a girlfriend!

***Flashback: My girlfriend of three [on and off] years felt the recession a bit hard back in ’08. She thought that by moving in with me and not having to pay
rent, she could save up money from a job here in Murfreesboro. Maybe even go to school. Reluctantly, I agreed. She got here and, no job, no school,
no nothing. The only thing she did when she moved in was cause me splitting
head-aches and multiple scratches in the paint on the wall from flying objects. She was definitely bi-polar, and it started to rub off on me so she had to go.***

I hope you assumed that our stay together, nor our relationship ended well, because you would be right.

But back to Alicia…we got to her house and she walked around the apartment searching for his belongings. They were scattered everywhere, so she figured he hadn’t gone anywhere. She grinned and sighed with relief. But in the same sigh, she said, “I hate him living here.” Then for about ten minutes, she talked about everything she hates about him living with her. She has to do double laundry, double the dishes, clean double the mess and be home by certain times.

I almost felt sympathy for Alicia, but after she stopped fussing, she got on the computer to see what websites he got on after a big fight they had last night. They were porn sites, of course :) Then talked about how she grilled when he got home after leaving for only 15 minutes. Now that they live together, she wants to know where he is, at every moment. Physically and digitally.

So, obviously she deals with all of those things just so she can keep up with everything he’s doing. Basically, she’s asking for it and so is he.
Me and Alicia aren’t friends necessarily, so I didn’t ask questions or anything. I just sat there laughing, until my smile quickly turned into a scowl when I flashed back to my ex.

Moral of the story: don’t move in with a girlfriend or let one move in with you. Unless you like being spied on, arguing, checking in and someone else's morning breath every day, this probably won't work for you. Maybe, just maybe it could work if you are headed towards marriage. But hey, if nothing else, you’ll probably always get good food if she can cook (hopefully).