"Are You Done Yet?"

Don’t hate me but, I’m going to get girly on you for a second…I am an emotional creature, remember? And no it’s not “that time” :)

For the past couple of days, I have cried more than I have in my entire 21 years of life, including that awkward coming out thing. Okay, so maybe I am exaggerating. But I probably could fill a small Sonic’s cup with all of the tears from last week. I was crying about a lot of random things, and I just felt like my whole life sucked, basically. I won’t get into too much of that, but here’s the point of this post: when your girlfriend needs you, be there. Point. Blank. Period.

Now, before I lose you already, let me make something clear: of course there is no way for you to possibly be available 24/7 (unless you just pretty much suck at life). I understand that, and I wish more girls did. It’s a hard principle for most girls to grasp because, as the girlfriend, nothing in your life should be more important than her. [That’s her thought. Not mine.] But these past couple of days gave me the urge to share this quick tip with you in hopes that I could save you from a “MY GIRLFRIEND’S BIPOLAR!!” moment. And I’ll admit, but don’t judge me: I had a moment the other day.

Like I said before, I was extremely emotional and every little thing made me upset. Unfortunately for my Honey, the best friend/lover, when I get like this, I turn into a “clinger,” and I want her more than I want Vh1 to stop giving reality shows to celebrities. And might I just add, that’s a pretty strong desire of mine.

Every time I called, she was busy. And every time I got an “I’ll call you back,” she never did. So eventually, my moment crawled out of the bowels of my bitchness and attacked her. She finally called back and I told her exactly how I felt. And even though I hurt her feelings, it was all true. After I told her what I was going through, her response was less than feeling or caring, for that matter. I just felt like she didn’t care and this is where the moment came from.

Had she just taken the time to hear me out, my moment never would have happened. But had I tried harder to remember that at certain times in her life, things will be more important than me and my tears, I would have never ended up hurting her out of my frustrations. She told me everything she was juggling on her plate and I couldn’t help but sympathize with her. I do love her.

She told me something that her mother told her and it stuck in my mind for a while. She said “Never kick a person when they’re down.” And at that moment, I realized that her issues were of far greater importance than me just needing a shoulder to cry on. Of course, as the Honey, that’s her job. But at the same time, it’s my job to be strong for her when her own knees can’t hold her up.

So the moral of this story: try your hardest to be there, and if you can’t be, make sure she knows you care. And if you’ve got a good one, that’ll be an understood vice-versa.